And so far so good. It's actually a pretty easy read and the points are direct and precise, which I like. Once you state your point and give your example that's all you need to do. Unless there is an entertaining story. Or pictures of kittens! We like kittens. See......
See how a picture of cute, adorable, sleepy kitties makes the most tedious writing worth while?
Hopefully that's not a reflection of my blog posts....
Anyway, with the conclusion of my fourth book in my pursuit of happiness series, I've been looking over everything I've read and found the topics of expectation and gratitude to come up alot with the lessons I've been learning from this book. Sorry, that was a really long sentence. But it's made me think about the importance of expectation and gratitude in not only creating the happy life that you desire, but also just in the everyday interactions that affect you.
Expectation. It's something that equally is simple and yet can be one of the hardest things you can do. To give an example, when you book that vacation you've been wanting to go on, to that place you've always desired to see, it's very easy to have happy and good expectations that you are going to have a good time. That it's going to be relaxing and everything you dreamed it would be. And usually it is. But it's easy to expect the best when your actions are leading you to something that you always desired.
But what if you desire something that you have no idea how to get. I'm going to give a very personal example. Right now I'm trying to get pregnant. Now, it's not been the Goddess's blessing to give me a child yet. And yes, that does weigh heavy in my heart. So it makes it hard for me to create the expectation that I am going to be pregnant when there have been so many times when I thought that, believed that, and it only ended in heart break. But I also know that if I just give up and say that I shouldn't expect to get pregnant, well then I definitely won't get pregnant. So this chapter has given me a boost I've needed in working at creating the expectation of things I desire in my life, like having a child. And that I, and everyone else for that matter, should create the expectation in their lives to be able to achieve all they desire in their lives. Because if they just think that they can't achieve it for this reason or that reason, well then you never will.
Wow, that was heavy ("Weight has nothing to do with it!" Name that movie!)
That leads us into a concept that is even harder, gratitude.
Again, in times of happiness and joy, it's very easy to be grateful for what you have in your life. A loved one comes back home from a long trip safe and sound makes you grateful not only for their safety but also for the loved one. You get an unexpected check that allows you to pay some bills and get that mani/pedi (or something you'd like if you're like me and don't like people touching your toes), you are grateful for that money and the ability to treat yourself. Or when that husband of yours goes all out and surprises you with a cookbook you've been wanting for a while but didn't think you'd have the money for but he gets it for you anyway because he's appreciative of all that you do. And yes, I know this from personal experience, like in yesterday evening personal experience. And that made me very appreciative of not only the little things in life, but also that I have a wonderful husband and I truly am the luckiest girl in the world.
So, now that you all have stopped putting your fingers down your throats and making gagging noises, it's easy to see how when you are happy, or joyful, or surprised, or something wonderful happens, a sense of gratitude is very easy. But it's not so easy to be grateful for that bill that comes in unexpectedly that drains your small amount of savings. Or some one's nasty comment about a project you've been working on for years and are very proud of. Or that person who just rubs you the wrong way and any interaction with them leads to anger. Much harder to be grateful for these people or situations. But the funny thing is those situations are when you need to dig down deep and be grateful for all that you do have, lest you get sucked in to a pity fest, either with others or with yourself. And it just makes you feel bad about life, period. I could get into the energies and aura fields and other things I like to discuss. But really, in the end, if you get angry, upset, or depressed from these interactions it does two things. First of all it gives the negative interaction or person power because it's taking away your happiness. Second, it makes you feel like crap for much longer than the interaction took place. If you continue to feel bad it's because you are beating yourself up about the situation. And it makes any other future interaction with that person/that bill/that nasty comment a stigma of negativity.
Is it easy to be grateful during these times? Yes it is. Do I maintain perfect gratitude during times like this? Hell no. I go back home and think about the many ways I could have done it better. But I now know that I need to pull myself out of the negativity with gratitude if I don't want this negativity to bring me down. That and a good pillow to scream into and beat up a bit, or alot.
Or more pictures of cute kittens!
AWWWWW!!!!!
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